What’s it like to be a parent? It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love. The Golden Rule of Parenting is do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you.
One thing is clear, Parents must instill the right principles in their children, but then it’s up to the children to live up to those principles. Some people say, ‘Good parents hardly parent. They let their kids learn, fail, and grow without interference’.
What is right and what is wrong is difficult to understand. But one thing is clear.
It is the sunlight of parental love and encouragement that enables a child to grow in competence and slowly gain mastery over his environment.
Society is changing. Times are changing. Norms are changing. Morals, character, and integrity have taken backseat. In such a scenario, parenting has become a tough job. Present day generation is giving priority to high salary jobs and kids are left at the mercy of maid servants.
When both parents leave for jobs in the morning, kids are sleeping. When they return home late in the evening, they are tired and have hardly any time for children. It was a bliss to have your parents with you when kids were growing.
There are also children, who after getting married, desert their old and ailing parents and set up independent homes. Is not it cruel to deprive growing kids of love and affection of grandparents?
At the same time, you are neglecting old parents who gave their all to bring you up. If it wasn’t for our parents, none of us would be where we are today. Although we may not always see eye-to-eye, the love and wisdom they instill within us is something that can never be forgotten.
Believe me, Parenthood is all about guiding the next generation, and forgiving the last. The affection of parents makes infants feel safe in this dangerous world and gives them boldness in experimentation and in exploration of their environment.
My feeling is that present generation has little patience or time for their children. Both working parents would bestow costly gifts on kids and buy them toys like video games so that they do not bother them. Even small children have expensive mobile phones and by the time, a child is five years old, he is apt at handling computer as well as television.
Parents flaunt their talent before guests which boosts child’s ego and makes him more arrogant. Children these days never listen to No from parents. Since parents have no time, kids exploit their weakness.
Remember one thing, your children need your presence more than your presents. They know ultimately parents would surrender. It looks like parents are afraid of children. Most of them have one child and yield to his every demand, right or wrong. Common pretext is child may go into depression or in a fit of anger, may take a wrong step.
Tell me if we agree to each demand, how would we teach them difference between right and wrong. Kids have also forgotten the pleasure of playing outdoor games like hockey, football, cricket, and athletics and many more. They are all the time glued to mobile, computer or Television.
Do not you think you miss grandparents at such a time. They have the experience of bringing up children. They have tonnes of patience, compassion, kindness and love for grand kids.we all love dividend more than principal amount. But present generation has more trust in maid servants than grandparents. They can bear tantrums of maids than give respect to parents who deserve it. They are under the impression that they are wiser and know more than their parents.
Every advice and suggestion of parents irritates them. Don’t belittle your parents in order to please other people. Those other people did not spend their lives building yours. My appeal to present generation. Please look after your mother and father who brought you in this world and gave their all to build your career. Love your parents and treat them with loving care. For you will only know their value when you see their empty chair.
Now let us look at another scenario, building up rapidly. Institution of marriage in itself is in trouble. Divorce rate is increasing rapidly. Both boy and girl want to have bigger slice of cake. No one is prepared for reconciliation and compromise. My way or the highway is the maxim.
Both forget that happy marriage requires flexibility, compromise, and adjustment. When a marriage breaks, parents of both girl and boy get shock of their life. Children suffer the most. They get negative vibes.
Tension in the house affects their development. When parents fight over small things, they send negative vibes to children. The thing about parenting rules is there aren’t any. That’s what makes it so difficult. Parents are without a doubt, one of the most, influential role models that their kids will probably have under normal circumstances. To put it in simple words, good parents do good parenting. Parents should make it a point to sort out their differences and not go to bed with any backlog.
Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence. Please remember, Parenting is a lifelong process and does not end when a child grows up . Younger children start to become more independent and begin to build friendships. They are able to reason and can make their own decisions.
Young children demand constant attention but gradually learn how to deal with boredom and take their own decisions. They enjoy helping and feeling useful . Parents can assist their children by encouraging social interactions and modelling proper social behaviours.
A large part of learning in the early years comes from being involved in activities and household duties. Parents who observe their children in play or join them in child-driven play have the opportunity to glimpse into their children's world . Parents learn to communicate more effectively with their children, and to offer gentle, nurturing guidance. Parents also teach their children health, hygiene, and eating habits through instruction and by example.
Parents are expected to make decisions about their child's education. Parenting styles in this area diverge greatly at this stage, with some parents becoming heavily involved in arranging organized activities and early learning programs. Other parents choose to let the child develop with few organized activities.
Children begin to learn responsibility and consequences for their actions with parental assistance. Some parents provide a small allowance that increases with age to help teach children the value of money and how to be responsible.
Parents who are consistent and fair openly communicate with their children. They offer explanations to the problems their children face and do not neglect the needs of their children in anyway. Such parents often find they have fewer problems with their children as they mature.
Parents often feel isolated and alone when parenting adolescents. Adolescence can be a time of high risk for children, where newfound freedom can result in decisions that drastically open up or close off life opportunities. There are also large changes that occur in the brain center as brain is now fully developed. But the rational frontal cortex hasn't matured fully and still is not able to keep all of those emotions in check.
Adolescents tend to increase the amount of time spent with peers of the opposite gender; however, they still maintain the amount of time spent with those of the same gender, by decreasing the amount of time spent with their parents.
Although adolescents look to peers and adults outside the family for guidance on how to behave, parents can remain influential in their development. Studies have shown that parents can have a significant impact, for instance, on how much teens drink.
During adolescence children begin to form their identity and start to test and develop the interpersonal and occupational roles that they will assume as adults. Therefore, it is important that parents treat them as young adults. Parental issues at this stage of parenting include dealing with rebelliousness related to a greater desire to partake in risky behaviours. In order to prevent risky behaviours, it is important for the parents to build a trusting relationship with their children. This can be achieved through behavioural control, parental monitoring, consistent discipline, parental warmth and support, inductive reasoning, and strong parent-child communication.
When a trusting relationship is built up, adolescents are more likely to approach their parents for help when faced with negative peer pressure. Helping children builds a strong foundation which ultimately helps them resist negative peer pressure. Not only will a positive relationship between adolescent and parent benefit when faced with peer pressure, it will help with identity-processing in early adolescents.
Parenting does not usually end when a child turns 18. Support may be needed in a child's life well beyond the adolescent years and can continue into middle and later adulthood. Parenting can be a lifelong process. Parents may provide financial support to their adult children, which can also include providing an inheritance after death.
The life perspective and wisdom given by a parent can benefit their adult children in their own lives. Becoming a grandparent is another milestone and has many similarities with parenting. Roles can be reversed in some ways when adult children become care givers to their elderly parents. This however does not happen often. Parenting is all about making your child a good human being and a good citizen.
Children, after all are future of our country. Good father is a source of inspiration and self-restraint. A good mother is the root of kindness and humbleness. When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.
Parenting or child rearing promotes and supports the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively a biological relationship. Remember, Parents were the only ones obligated to love you, You had to work hard to earn it from rest of the world.